New Year, New Me?
Every year at the beginning of the new year so many individuals are saying “new year, new me” I’m sure you have already witnessed some of these as statuses and captions on social media. People say this all the time but what does it mean? You gon’ throw the whole existence away?
Most likely not. I want to talk in this post about the idea around having to make a whole new persona or “you” in order to exact meaningful or significant change in your life. Every year people make unrealistic New Years resolutions. They don’t complete them and then they feel crappy about not sticking to them. Lets be real! You know that you’re probably not going to go from never working out to working out 7 days a week.
If you are looking to set goals for the new year try making them more realistic and attainable. For example, if you want to begin working out set a goal to work out 2-3x a week minimum. That way if you do more then that’s great; however, your not setting yourself up to fall short of accomplishing your goal either. Being realistic about who you are and how your lifestyle is will make resolution setting more practical. Setting and not meeting expectations or goals is a sure way of lowering your self esteem and sense of capability. It’s better to surprise and surpass than it is to not achieve.
In line with setting realistic goals it’s also perfectly okay to keep the old you and make improvements. Do you really want to change everything about yourself?!? Is there no quality about yourself that you love/would like to hold on to? I’m sure there is. It’s okay to make adjustments and improve on the foundation. Growth is definitely important and key in life.
I also see many post about leaving negativity and negative people behind, which is a wonderful practice. No one wants or needs a negative/hating/toxic individual in their life. However, now that all the negativity is gone what will you replace those spaces and gaps with? Distancing yourself from people, places, and things, that don’t serve your purpose is ideal but everything has an equal and opposite reaction so be sure to think about what positive activities and things you seek to fill those spaces in your life with.
Rather than throwing out the baby with the bath water. Think about how you can enhance and improve your current life, career, relationships, friendships, etc.
Journaling, creating visions boards, finding a gym/accountability partner, and writing out your goals are perfect ways to start that process of creating change. Just remember the key to completing goals is making them attainable. If your goals are big overarching goals like completing a degree or starting a successful business; break those goals down. Break them down into smaller components and steps that you need to complete in order to achieve the greater goal.
You got this! Happy New Year!