Wellness & Self-Care

Wellness & Self-Care

We have all heard the phrase, “know your worth”. Its a common phrase, but what does it mean? Does it mean your value monetarily? What you’re worthy of in terms of love and affection? The level or respect you should receive? The sum and value of your life? I mean it could mean anyone one of those things or even all of them simultaneously I suppose. It’s a phrase that most likely gets interpreted a million different ways. I am writing this post to explain how I interpret it and what it means to me. To me it truly has many different meanings but it all boils down to Positive Self-Regard and a Sense Of Self-Worth. The concepts of positive self-regard and self-worth are concepts that many women and even men struggle with. This idea that you deserve and are entitled to happiness, respect, love, appreciation, etc simply because you exist on this earth. The idea is foreign to many and we are socialized to believe that we have to “earn” or “work” for these things when truly they are rights given at birth. Why should anyone have to earn the love of another person? Should love not be given freely and with genuine intent? We are told what will make us happy (consumerism) and are constantly bombarded with images and are articles that depict and detail how to obtain happiness. It’s all BS but we get sucked into it anyway. We are constantly looking for external validation and approval. And NO social media is not to blame, it certainly puts an emphasis on it but looking for external validation is hardly a new concept. We look for others and to things to validate our worth. “I’m married with kids so I must be worthy of love “. “I’m wealthy and money is no object so I must be happy and worth more than others”. The reality of it is that before you entered into that romantic relationship you were WORTHY of love, before you got that high powered job you were WORTHY of respect, and before you altered you’re looks you were beautiful and WORTHY of happiness. Begin to cultivate these most prized and sought after life constructs for yourself and from an internal standpoint. Really begin to define what love means and looks like to you.  What does happiness feel like? don’t let society define these incredibly unique and personal ideals for you. Define, cultivate, and manifest them in you’re everyday life. Remember not to let anyone else make you doubt or question your worth or make you feel as though you need external validation in order to truly know if you are worthy. Dare to truly be yourself in the purest form and shine as you were always intended to.